Great newsletter! So true about the future self thing. I turned down some work last week which I nearly jumped at, just because I wanted to be helpful and nice. But I knew the work would be bloody tedious - and I couldn't even apply boredom tax (great term!) to it, as they don't have the budget. I feel really pleased now that I didn't say yes. I find trying not to respond the same day to an offer of work helps - often overnight I will come to the conclusion that a gig isn't taking me to where I want to be. Have a great week! X
Yes I forgot to mention how the opposite can be true - I have spent entire weeks basking in not doing a job that I turned down. It can be the best feeling in the world!
Thanks for this! I’m forever trying to people please and try and compromise with weddings that come in and I hate to turn down work so early in my career but I just know it’s not going to work for me later down the line. I’ve had two instances now where I said yes when I really should have said no and lost so many nights sleep over worrying about it etc. Maybe losing one nights sleep about having to say no is better than weeks of no sleep being obliged to continue! X
It's such a difficult balance and I think all of us get it wrong on occasion - even people who have been freelancing for decades. Don't beat yourself up over it! x
Great newsletter! So true about the future self thing. I turned down some work last week which I nearly jumped at, just because I wanted to be helpful and nice. But I knew the work would be bloody tedious - and I couldn't even apply boredom tax (great term!) to it, as they don't have the budget. I feel really pleased now that I didn't say yes. I find trying not to respond the same day to an offer of work helps - often overnight I will come to the conclusion that a gig isn't taking me to where I want to be. Have a great week! X
Yes I forgot to mention how the opposite can be true - I have spent entire weeks basking in not doing a job that I turned down. It can be the best feeling in the world!
Agree about taking time to reply too. x
Thanks for this! I’m forever trying to people please and try and compromise with weddings that come in and I hate to turn down work so early in my career but I just know it’s not going to work for me later down the line. I’ve had two instances now where I said yes when I really should have said no and lost so many nights sleep over worrying about it etc. Maybe losing one nights sleep about having to say no is better than weeks of no sleep being obliged to continue! X
It's such a difficult balance and I think all of us get it wrong on occasion - even people who have been freelancing for decades. Don't beat yourself up over it! x
Relatable 🥹
Loved this! And yes, I need to take better care of future me and I’m saying yes to everything in sight 🥲
Really enjoyed this, Lizzy - more delicious than a pain au chocolat (or lump of cheese).